"The curious paradox is when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change"
Carl Rogers
Hi! I'm Sue Harman, a Person-centred psychotherapist and counsellor working with adults, teenagers and young people. I came into counselling after finding my own freedom from lived experiences that affected my life for many years.
I am passionate about working with teenagers having previously worked as a teacher and youth worker. I also have a lot of experience with working with adults and young people who have lived with childhood abuse. And as someone who lives with a disability I have a shared experience of living with the frustration and loneliness that having a disability can bring.
Sometimes we feel lost
Somewhere along the way we may have disappeared from our own lives. At other times we can feel alienated or disappointed with the person who we've become. We can even believe ourselves to be worthless and unlovable.
Some keep themselves busy with the distractions of work, food, friends, children, alcohol, shopping, for example; but nothing really brings the relief and satisfaction we seek. We know, deep-down, something is missing. That's where I can help.
Finding the best you
As a Person-Centred counsellor and psychotherapist, I can provide you with a safe, non-judgemental, confidential space where I come alongside you to facilitate your own exploration. My hope for you, like all my clients, is that you flourish to become your best self ... who and whatever that may be.
What won't happen in therapy...
Clients often voice the need for advice or a quick way through, in order to avoid the sometimes painful aspects that can occur during therapy both in and outside of the therapy session. It is my belief and that of the person-centred community that direct advice or direction will rob you of the beneficial aspects of therapy. This lessens the long term effects and any change is short-lived. When we discover things for ourselves, we can truly change.
My role in therapy
My role is to help you with your journey. I am not an expert in your life, only you can be that. So I will never tell you what to do. Instead I'll offer you suggestions and may challenge your held perceptions; it will always be up to you whether you choose to take these on board.
You will always have the choice over your own process. It is important that you are empowered rather than to abdicate your power to someone else, including me!
The commitment I make to you is to be fully engaged in our sessions and to be in your corner, fully 'for' you.
There may be times that I disagree with you and when and if appropriate, I will say but only if this is helpful for you. It essential that I am genuine and honest with you as we know when someone is being untruthful but this will only come from a place of unconditional kindness.
"Out of the ashes comes the Phoenix, renewed & refreshed. However dark and seemingly hopeless the situation, we too can rediscover our light, embrace who we are, take our power back and become truly us... free to be ourselves fully with the ability to really flourish."
Sue Harman MBACP, MA, BSc(ed).Hons
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